Flirting

A good friend of mine thinks she flirts too much. I said no.

One day she was waiting for her takeout food at some restaurant and noticed the chef looking at her. As a response she smiled. He then asked how she was doing. She was back in there a few days later picking up an order, and he came up to her and asked her what she did (for a living) and then procedded to introduce himself, and so on. This is the third or fourth time he has tried to approach her all the while she is wearing her wedding band and making it apparent at that!

Another instance she was waiting in line for the ladies room and there was line for the men's room as well. She commented to the one of the men waiting, "That's not something you see every day, guys waiting!" Next thing she knew, he got out of line and asked her if she had a boyfriend.

Once she was followed to her parking lot by a guy loading her car, a tv I think it was, but regardless he went on to ask her out. After she told him she was married, he asked but are you "happily married?"

"Maybe I am clueless and all it takes is a smile or a hello at a guy and they think you are interested or are hitting on someone," she says.

Ladies: I want to let you know, no, it's not you, it's us guys. We are so excited when we get a response or reaction from a girl that we usually take it the wrong way. We are so used to getting rejected and ignored that when a girl, and an attractive one at that, gives us any time of day, we get all giddy and excited like a 12 year old school girl and take it too far too soon. Don't take offense to it or get weirded out because most of the time we mean well. It's just that most men don't know how to approach the situation and/or are not good talkers and end up ruining any chance we had, if there was one. We lack any ability to discern being nice from flirting, and it can be scary. We mean no harm.

I know girls who have stopped smiling and talking to men in public all together when they are alone. It may sound crazy, but more times than you can believe, they have been followed around the store, or even scarier to the parking lot and have been approached there.

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